With rising costs of living and scarcity of jobs, you’ve probably had a friend or two joking that they’re thinking of becoming a sugar baby. If you’re unfamiliar with the term, here’s a quick lowdown – a sugar baby is someone who engages in a sugar relationship with a sugar daddy or sugar mommy and is compensated for their companionship with an allowance and/or showered with gifts!
As you can imagine, due to its unique nature, sugar relationships get a lot of bad reps. For instance, it’s a common misconception that sugar babies have to sleep with their sugar daddy/mommy, which is why they’re often labeled as prostitutes – but that couldn’t be far from the truth.
We ask an experienced sugar baby, Melissa, who’s sick and tired of hearing the same old rumors, to set the record straight once and for all:
Contents
- UNDERSTANDING SUGAR RELATIONSHIPS
- DEBUNKING MISCONCEPTIONS
- THE IMPORTANCE OF CONSENT
- NEGOTIATING BOUNDARIES
- ALTERNATIVES TO PHYSICAL INTIMACY
- “You don’t hear about this side of sugaring, but sugar daddies also often serve as mentors. Since sugar daddies are usually wealthy people who are more successful in life, they have a lot of real-life experiences to share.”
- “Take it from me: don’t listen to the haters and just do you! You’ll have more to gain for yourself if you just give it a try rather than listen to false stories and miss out on having the life you want.”
UNDERSTANDING SUGAR RELATIONSHIPS
Q: Hi Melissa, thanks for being here! Our topic for today is: do sugar babies HAVE to sleep with sugar daddies? Perhaps let’s start off by helping our readers understand the nature of sugar relationships.
Melissa: Thanks for having me! So, sugar relationships work kind of like your average relationship, except that sugar babies get paid for their time. People always think that because of this, we’re forced to do whatever the sugar daddy asks.
I can tell you that in my 4 years of sugaring, I’ve never been made to do what I don’t want to do. I always have a choice. This is because the foundation of sugar relationships is based on mutual agreement and consent.
It’s also worth knowing that there are different types of sugar relationships with varying arrangements. Some only meet for companionship, some are online exclusive, whereas others have some kind of sexual favors involved. It’s never black and white.
“Simply put, the sugar baby and sugar daddy agree and decide on the terms of their relationship together.”
DEBUNKING MISCONCEPTIONS
Q: So sex is not a “non-negotiable” in sugar relationships?
Melissa: Haha, that’s a common misconception! Most people think sugar babies don’t have a say, but it’s quite the opposite. We get a say right from the beginning. Before even agreeing to be in a relationship, both you (the sugar baby) and sugar daddy must communicate what they want, as well as their boundaries.
If what the sugar baby lays out aligns with what the sugar daddy wants (the terms of relationship), and there’s a mutual understanding, then the relationship begins.
Q: So, not all sugar daddies put sex on the table?
Melissa: Nope! Most just want a fun and sweet person to accompany them to events, dinners, or even for traveling overseas on business. It makes their life less boring, I guess. I’d say 4 out of the 10 sugar daddies I’ve met have listed sex as one of their requirements.
THE IMPORTANCE OF CONSENT
Melissa: Sugar relationships are big on consent. If you meet a sugar daddy who wants sexual favors and you’re not open to it, simply communicate this and move on to the next candidate. Over time, this can actually become quite empowering!
Because not only are you learning to draw your own boundaries, you’re also learning more about yourself along the way. These are essential skills to have if you want to live a fulfilled life on your terms.
NEGOTIATING BOUNDARIES
Q: You talk a lot about setting boundaries. Can you share some tips for new sugar babies on how to do this effectively?
Melissa: Of course! Boundaries are important in every aspect of your life. How to draw the line is quite simple – you need to communicate it effectively. In sugar relationships, you’re expected to do this at the start, so don’t miss your chance. You don’t need to offer a reason; simply say it doesn’t align with what you want. This may be difficult for some to express, but with practice, you’ll become a pro!
With my current sugar daddy, who I’ve been with for about a year or so, he only wanted companionship, which is why we started a relationship. But after getting to know him for a few months, spending a lot of time together, and forming a deeper bond, sex naturally became a topic for discussion.
Only after we both agreed to take it to the next level, then we start having sex. If you think about it, it’s pretty much the same as a “traditional” relationship. Two people who meet and hang out all the time eventually find something more profound and form a romantic/sexual attraction.
ALTERNATIVES TO PHYSICAL INTIMACY
Q: Thanks for openly sharing about your own experiences! It’s really an interesting insight, and I’ve never thought about it that way. Sugar relationships are like normal relationships, basically?
Melissa: Yes! In fact, I personally prefer the style of sugar relationships where there’s no beating around the bush. I mean, I’ve had my fair share of traditional relationships where we never talk about anything. And only after years of dating do we realize we’re not a good match. That’s so much time wasted with the wrong person, and you don’t even get anything out of it!
At least with sugar relationships, you not only get paid, but you actually gain a lot of essential life skills. Over the course of my sugaring experience, I’ve grown a lot in many aspects – both in my personal life as well as my career.
Like whenever I’m stuck with a dilemma at work or even in life, I turn to my sugar daddy, who offers fresh perspectives and gives me new ideas for handling the situation. I love listening to their stories and learning new ways to tackle life’s never-ending challenges. So you see, sugar relationships can be fulfilling, and it doesn’t need to involve sex!
Q: Thanks for being so candid with us; we’ve learned a lot. Do you have anything else to add to help us round up our interview?
Melissa: Thank you for the chance to set the record straight! To have a succesful sugar relationship, make sure that to remember these 3 values: consent, boundaries, and open communication. This, plus knowing yourself, is the key to sustaining this unique dynamic.
I’m really tired of hearing all the rumors surrounding sugar babies, but after being in sugar relationships yourself, you’ll realize that they’re just misconceptions touted by people who don’t even know what’s really happening.
“Take it from me: don’t listen to the haters and just do you! You’ll have more to gain for yourself if you just give it a try rather than listen to false stories and miss out on having the life you want.”
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