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You find yourself talking to a pretty girl and you’re hoping the night ends with you and her all tangled up in bed?

Or you’ve been on a few dates and it’s time to turn up the heat?

Whether it’s a one-night stand or you are hoping to move the relationship to the next level, if your end goal is to get laid, it isn’t all that difficult… if you know how to do it correctly. 😎

It’s just a matter of doing the right thing at the right moment and encouraging her to get more intimate with you.

Honestly, the Venn diagram above sums it up quite well.

But we’ll break it down for you on what questions to ask and how to build sexual tension so that you can get lucky. 😉


10 Secrets to Getting Laid 


1) Change your mindset.

If your mind is heading straight to getting laid, I’m sorry to say you are going down the wrong way. Although the end goal is to get laid, there is a certain finesse in getting a girl to sleep with you.

Although some women might appreciate a straightforward “hey, you want to sleep with me?”, most times you need to ask questions in a way that indirectly leads to sex. This is known as the art of seduction and it requires a few bouts of trial and error to learn.

Don’t worry, here are some questions to get you started.

If you want to get to know her better, ask “What do you do for fun?” This will help you find a common ground if there is any. If there isn’t any, at least it shows that you are interested in her as a person which might help in your agenda of getting laid.

Another question you could attempt if you are more daring is to ask her over for a nightcap or to join you for some Netflix back at your place. 

P.S. It is important that you do not pressure her or imply that the night should end in sex. If she is comfortable in going over to your place, that is already a big step forward.


2) Make her feel sexually attracted to you

The last thing you want is to get friend-zoned. To prevent that, she must view you in a sexual and attractive way. 

You can do that by making things playful and fun. You don’t have to make a flirty comment every time you speak to her, but once in a while, you should say something that makes her heart skip a beat.

Adding a little mystery to your conversation and personality will also test if she’s attracted to you. If she shows that she’s curious about you and wants to know you more, it’s a pretty good sign that she is attracted to you in a non-friendly way.

And you are one step closer to getting laid.


3) Use touch.

The first thing you should know is if a girl says no, she means no and that she can say no at any time of the process. If she shows discomfort at your touch, that’s also a sign for you to stop.

Now that we got that down, touch is a very effective way to initiate sex if you know how to do it right. 

Touch can be as simple as putting your hand on her back as you walk through the restaurant or playing with her fingers as you watch a movie together. Placing your hand around her shoulder as you walk to the car can show the protective side of you. 

You could also reach for her hand when you are driving (btw that’s a surefire way of making a heart skip a beat) or you can even initiate a game such as a thumb wrestling to loosen the tension especially if it’s a first or second date.

Small touches like that will start a chain reaction in her mind and before you know it, she might even be the one who jumps you first.


4) Connect emotionally with her.

Women are wired differently and if you want to get laid with one, you’re going to have to build trust and connection with her. 

Emotional connection basically means feeling like “You get me and you’re on my side!” It’s about paying attention, having empathy, being loyal, and being vulnerable.

So, don’t rush things — talk to her, get to know her and build a connection. If you skip this step, she will notice that you’re just out to get into her pants. That’s going to be an instant rejection from her.

Here are a few tips on how to build that emotional connection:

  • Be present: We live in a busy world and all of us lead very busy lives. But when you are with the person you are hoping to get laid with, try to tune out the world and tune in to her instead.
  • Be responsive: As much as it is important to listen to her, you also have to show that you are paying attention. If her words are just going in one ear and coming out the other one, we seriously doubt you would be able to get laid.
  • Be empathic:If they are sharing their struggles or problems with you, try to feel their struggles from the inside of their world. Ask open-ended questions to show that you care about their issues.
  • Be loyal: Be on their team! Show that you are on their side even though you might not completely agree with them. If you do have a different opinion, try to wait till they’re calmer to mention it.
  • Be vulnerable yourself: Building an emotional connection is a two-way street. You will need to expose your emotions too in order to build a better connection.

Seems like a lot of work just to get laid but this advice works for every kind of relationship out there, so it’s a win-win.


5) Make it clear you’re attracted to her.

Maybe you’re trying to play games and you’re trying to look cool but you don’t want to send the wrong signals either.

If a woman feels that you are not attracted to her, she is not likely to pay you any more attention. 

Some form of honesty and directness is necessary so that she knows that you see her in that way. It will make getting laid a lot easier if you are on the same page.

Please don’t think you are supposed to be mean towards her and that would show that you are attracted to her. That’s a romance movie myth! 

Instead, try complimenting her and remembering the little details to show that you have feelings for her.


6) Build up the sexual tension.

Guys get annoyed that they have to go through all these back and forth to get laid but this is the fun part!

After all, sex starts in the mind for us ladies and women needs to be mentally stimulated before they are stimulated elsewhere. 

Build sexual tension through your eye contact and body language. Throw in some teasing and flirting, make her laugh, make her feel excited and you are halfway there.

Most importantly, be confident. Be someone who knows what they want and goes for it. Men who know how to take the lead will instil the desire in beautiful women.

This building of sexual tension can start way before you even meet. If you met through online dating and all you’ve been doing is texting, you can start there too!

You can learn how to get laid through text via these texting tips!


7) Make her feel attracted to your personality and inner qualities.

While it is true that superficial traits such as appearance, height, money, and social standing can attract women, the majority of women are happy to have sex with a man who has other appealing qualities.

For example, if an average-looking guy meets a woman and appeals to her with his confidence, charm, ability to make her laugh, and masculine vibe that makes her feel girly and feminine in comparison to him, she will most likely agree to have sex with him if he plays his cards right.

There’s a reason why so many girls cite humour as a turn on in men—it’s never just about your looks.


8) Check your hygiene.

Having said that about looks, it is still important to look clean and presentable. Wear good-fitting clothes, look smart and approachable and make sure you smell good. 

Apparently, odour is an essential component of attractiveness for women. A study even showed that men who eat a lot of fruits and vegetables smell better.

So, yes, this is one of the secrets to getting laid smell delicious. 🤤


9) Don’t think you are doing her a favour.

Always keep in mind that sex should be mutually enjoyable. You are not doing her a favour by having sex with her or vice versa.

Acting all arrogant and egoistic will immediately turn all beautiful women off. You won’t even be able to get near enough to get laid.

Guys who think they’re doing girls a favour are the kind who have no idea how to attract women during a conversation. Don’t go about your life thinking this way.

Remember the first point? Change your mindset and you will no longer face any problems in getting laid with all kinds of beautiful women.


10) First kiss is key.

There’s a reason people use the baseball metaphor to talk about the different stages of sex — you need to get to the first base first before you can move on to the next.

The first passionate kiss between the two of you can cause an increase in dopamine levels in the brain. Did you know this happens to activate the same portion of the brain as cocaine, which makes you want more?

Which is why the first kiss is important. Once you get that first kiss in, you are very likely to end up in bed together. Getting to first base makes it easier to move on to the next.

Of course, we got you covered here too — here are 20 tips on how to become a better kisser. 

You totally owe us now! 

Nah, just joking. But maybe you could drop a visit to Sugarbook and look around. 

Sex isn’t the only thing in life that should be mutually enjoyable — at Sugarbook, relationships can be beneficial for both sides. 😎