Is there ever a right time to end a relationship? If so, when is it? We all want to be in a happy relationship, in this case, a happy sugar relationship. Sugar is sweet but soon enough, it’ll eventually lose its flavour. Sometimes we can get so deep in drama that we can’t see the damage it does until it’s too late.
Not all sugar relationships are meant to last, so if you notice any of the following signs, it’s likely your arrangement has run its course.
1. You’re bored
Everything can be exciting in the beginning of the arrangement. But after being together for sometime, things tend to level off a bit. You don’t feel bad about canceling dates and sort of feel relieved when they get too busy to spend time with you. You would prefer doing other things instead. This is when you hit a point and realise things have changed. The both of you become distant and don’t meet as frequently as before. When you’re bored of the person, it could be a sign that you’re ready to move on.
2. You feel like you’re taken for granted
Yes, you’re in an arrangement because it is a mutually beneficial relationship but you should beware when you feel that your partner is only extra sweet and thoughtful when they need a favour from you (i.e. money, material things). They are the same people that will brush you off with a cold shoulder once they get what they want.
3. Your Sugar Daddy/Mummy wants to get intimate but you don’t want to
Never feel obligated to have sex with someone unless you want to be. Nobody has the right to make you go further than you want to. Remind your partner of your arrangement. You have your rights to say no at anytime. If your sugar daddy/mummy tries to talk you into doing something against your will, here are some ideas of what you can say in return:
‘‘I had a lot of fun on our dates but I just don’t feel that chemistry with you.’’
‘’You are great as a sugar daddy/mummy, but I’m just not interested in you like that.’’
4. Your partner is abusive
No one plans to enter into abusive relationships. Whether it’s a one-time thing or a continual barrage of physical or emotional abuse, the trust is broken. You are in an arrangement for a reason(s). You want happiness, freedom and you want to get something out of it. If violence is presence is your arrangement, steer clear. No ifs or buts about it.
5. Your partner wants more exclusivity with you i.e. long-term relationship, marriage
The best way to get out of this awkward situation is to talk to your partner about it. It is vitally important that you are scrupulously upfront and honest with your sugar. Define what you want or else it can lead to wanting more. It can be as simple as saying ‘’You know this isn’t serious, right?’’ or ‘’Are you okay with being non-exclusive and dating other people at the same time?’’. Regardless of how its done, you should establish some ground rules and expectations at the beginning of the arrangement.
Now ask yourself, are you happy with what you have or is it time to move on and seek for a new arrangement?